This link talks about the Loss of a child and gives some great ideas about what you can say and what not to say to the parents. Sometimes we need to go through the process of the grieving to find the joy on the other side. Love One Another.
“You can help grieving parents in many ways. Here are some suggestions of things to say:
- “I’m sad for you.”
- “I’m here to listen.”
- “Take all the time you need.”
- “I can’t imagine how painful this must be for you.”
- “How can I help?”
- “Let’s spend some time together.”
- “It’s okay to be sad or angry around me.”
- “Tell me more about your child.”
- “I’m thinking about you.”
One of the hardest things about the death of a child is trying to figure out a reason for it. It just doesn’t make sense, parents should not outlive their children. With any death, the key to offering words of sympathy is to not give explanations or solutions for grief.
Avoid these statements:
- “God needed her more than we did.”
- “At least you have other children.”
- “It was God’s will.”
- “Your child is in a better place now.”
- “I know just how you feel.”
It really is worth going to the link and doing a little research and learn how to comfort others in their time of pain. May God Be With you as you Comfort others.