Why are we so afraid of change or people from another race or culture? The other grandma may not know your language but you all know how to love a baby and your children. To share this joy even though your culture may not be comfortable with people of another language/culture/race is a choice and one that we have enjoyed and would recommend. The one thing I would not change would be people of like faith in a marriage can build a strong foundation for their family. This gracious African woman, the mother of our wonderful son in law, father of our grandchildren is a lovely soul and a loving Christian woman. I choose Joy in our relationship.